In an eight am to two pm day of orientation for PSEO students
(high school students taking free college classes for dual credits), we have
been released for a social mingling time. My brown-haired John stretches long
arms, arcing tired shoulders, and cracks his knuckles, in the arena where all
students are to stay. Parents are making their way out to an atrium for coffee
and discussions.
John expresses a very French mentality aloud to me when he
says, “In my classes I plan on really getting to know the kids and look forward
to it, but this time here…” he trails off and I understand. Why build too deep
of conversations now with people you may never see again? We grin at each other and I repeat
aloud what we have always done. “Well, you can use this time to look for the
people who seem to be alone, and reach out to them.” He smiles and stands.
As I step into the corridor, I hear his confident voice
saying, “Hi, what’s your name?” and then his pleased response to a quiet voice,
“Oh, Morgan? That’s my sister’s name!” He fades out of hearing as I close in
with a throng of moms and dads heading for the styrofoam cups of coffee.
Several minutes later, cradling a bulk-brewed cup of java, I scan the crowd,
and take turns walking up to some women. “Hi…”
The best advice I ever received about people – in addition to
the truth that Jesus made them wonderfully and loves them—is the concept that
everyone feels shy, nervous or insecure at times.
I didn’t learn that until my first year of college. A tall
blonde waitress at the Italian restaurant I worked at oozed confidence. All the
male workers noticed her, and I shyly wondered if my new boyfriend at the time
would succumb to her charms as well. God nudged me to reach out to her on
several occasions, but I was sure I had misheard him. She didn’t look as if she
needed any new friends. One afternoon shift, though, I found her crying in a
back room. We talked for a while and hugged, and I realized how wrong I had
been. Everyone needs kind smiles, a
friendly hello, and sincerity, no matter how confident, successful,
put-together or popular they look. Everyone needs to know that they have value.
So, the next time you are feeling shy… inhale, remember what God says about your value and their value, and then walk up to them, smiling. “Hi…”
To build confident compassionate
kids, whisper to them the truths of who God says they are. Help them see
others in that same way. Let them in on
the secret that everyone –no matter how confident they appear—is insecure at
times about something. Then unleash them
to love others with our Abba’s love.
...I love talking with you. What advice would you pass on to new students this year? Or, what do you wish you had known about people earlier? (To join the discussion from email, click here.)
